PANDIT MARRIAGES - MAIN FEATURES
Moti Lal Pushkar
word denotes 'The Pandit marriage system' by way of selection of a groom by a
would be brides' parents in consultation with their daughter on the basis of a
would be groom's academic achievement, moral character, personality, young age
and health besides emotional attachment of a couple towards each other. An
invitation is extended to the groom by his father-in-law to attend the marriage
Mona. This letter of invitation mentions the day and date, exact auspicious hour
(Lagna), number of participants in the marriage party and the number of Brahmans
for recitation of the 'Vedas' on this occasion. Bride's hand is offered to her
life partner while 'Agni Deva' shines bright. This invitation letter is known as
the 'LAGANCHIRI'. Now-a-days the 'Kulguru' of the brides' parents discharges
this fatherly responsibility. This system of marriage is prevalent in the
Kashmiri Pandit society wherever they are.
The marriage is based on morality, parental
responsibility, social organization, spiritualization of human behaviour and
responsive attitude. It avoids vulgarity.
At the exact auspicious hour i.e. the hour of lagna,
the bride and her father face the east and the groom faces the west. Relatives
from both sides also witness the ceremony. The father of the bride addresses his
would be son-in-law thus "Sir, I offer you my daughter in marriage."
The groom shows his inclination thus, "Sir, I
accept this offer sincerely." He thrice repeats his acceptance. Both the
parties express together the following statement:
"This our statement is true. We adhere to it with
The father of the bride again addresses his son-in-law
"Sir, you have to share your Dharma (social
contact, Artha, earnings, and Kaama) the pious act of keeping God's creation
unhindered, with your lifepartner without fail."
This is agreed upon by the groom and the bride takes
her seat now by the left side of her husband.
Both pray that Agni Deva be pleased to bless us both.
The mantras recited here mean that desires, thoughts
and endeavour of ours to establish an ideal household be based on commonality of
interests. Our minds, heart and conscious being the same and serene.
Offerings, are made to the Holy Fire with the
recitation of the Vedic mantes. The essence of these mantras is given here:
God alone is the bestower of everything. He sustains
this our mother earth and the space above. He is the giver and protector. He is
the real father and creator.
The groom prays to God while addressing his better half
"The unfavourable forces that are bent upon to
cause widowhood to a woman may prove the agents of longevity for the husband.
The forces that try against having cattle and other
wealth may help us to have all types of wealth.
The natural agents that cause barrenness to a woman may
turn as the agents for fertility."
HUSBAND THEORY - FOUR FACTORS
The husband further states thus,
"My clear, it is the Moon god that entered thee
first causing m.c.t. The Sungod came the next to develop fertility. The fire god
came in its turn to generate heat in thee. I, the human agent, am the fourth
factor to sow the human seed."
A PIECE OF STONE AS A SEAT
It is a symbolic offering of a seat to the bride by her
husband to sit on. He prays that this marriage of two souls may prove as
permanent as this rocky seat. He further prays that she be freed from parental
bondage to live her future life with me.
In return the bride prays for the groom's long life and
prosperity. The groom reciprocates with the same spirit for her longevity.
The husband suggests to his bride to take seven
symbolic steps towards her new home. She takes these seven steps while praying.
1. "I take this first step with my inner desire to
become life-partner of my husband.
The husband repeats at every step thus, "May Almighty
fulfil all thy wishes."
2. This second step I take to acquire energy to
discharge my household duties.
3. Third I take to have health and fitness.
4. The fourth step I take to have fine sentiments in me.
5. Fifth I take to get ideal progeny.
6. This sixth I take to enjoy my future life happily
during all the seasons of the year.
7. This seventh, to have longevity."
THE DESIRE TO HAVE IDEAL PROGENY
The Groom further ashes: "Do you see full span of
Bride: "Yes I see." "Do you desire to
have Dhrava and Arundhati like ideal children?" "Yes Sir."
The Saraswati hymn from the Vedas is recited by the
couple. It reminds them that their original home had been the banks of the river
Saraswati, hence the community came to be known as the Saraswati Brahman.
Their (the Saraswat Brahman's) life mission had been
Saraswati i.e. learning of Arts, Crafts, Sciences and Scriptures. It is also to
remind them that they had been devotees of Saraswati i.e. the Cosmic
RECITATION OF SURYAVARGA
One more hymn from the Vedas known as the Suryavarga is
recited. It reminds the couple of their new responsibilities that await them as
householders. It says that this universe is like a chariot. The Sun and the Moon
are its two wheels. It keeps functioning by mutual agreement, patience and
OFFERING OF PRASAAD
At the end of Vivahahoma prasaad is offered to the
couple which they partake gladly. They offer a few morsels to each other. All
the dishes offered to the guests are also offered to the bride and the groom in
one plate. It is known in Kashmir is Daibat (Deiva Bhakta in Sanskrit) i.e.
God's gift to the couple.
Parents of the groom shower flowers on the couple.
Other relatives also participate in this flower showering. The couple sit under
the cover of a small canopy, symbolic of a bedroom. Actually, it is the
preparation for Garbhaadhaan Sanskara i.e. the couple invites attention of each
other to have ideal Progeny
The parents and relatives from both the sides remind
them names of ideal children from the Vedic heritage. This recitation covers
names of sages and seers, the incarnations, great warriors, heroic mothers,
famous kings and queens of the whole Vedic lore.
With this ritual, the Pandit marriage celebrations come
to an end.
This system is based on the Vedic Mantras and has been
presented to the society by Rishi Lougaaksha of Kashmir.